quote for the day

mostly I was completely aghast at the idea that a father would desert his child after a decade just because the child turned out to be “not really his,” “someone else’s kid.” Speaking off the cuff, it seems to me the best solution here would probably just be to change the law to allow children to have more than two legal parents—but regardless of the legal question there’s a clear ethical imperative to remain a parent the child you have raised and claim to love, whatever the mother might have done or said in the past. In some sense this actually seems to me to be beyond ethics, or rather before; it seems to me you’d want to stay the child’s father, that you’d be desperate to, in whatever way you could.

Refering to this article.

Hmmm. Well on the one hand, I've got to share Gerry's shock at a man who would abandon his daughter, blood or no. On the other hand, in the particular circumstance, when the actual DNA father of the child is married to the actual DNA mother of that child, hitting up non-biological dad for money seems pretty wrong, somehow. And it's not like NBD dad isnt having anything to do with said daughter anymore.
My wife used to get child-support from her ex, and while that check was nice, if it had never come, that would have been okay with me. When you marry a woman (or man) with (a) child(ren), you dont just marry that person, you marry that family. It's a package deal, and you've accepted responsibility for all of them. If you dont like, dont marry. It's that simple, and that fair.

That said, I cant imagine what goes on in the head of anyone who abandons their children, regardless of DNA.